Friday, January 10, 2020

An Apology

Sometimes I forget that students care if I like them.

I received an email from one of my students a few weeks ago, and the subject line read, "an apology".  She apologized for "being moody".  She went on to say how much she likes my class and thinks I'm funny.  Then she wrote this: I'm worried you think I dislike you because it feels like you don’t like me.

That was the exact moment my heart broke.  When I think about it, she's right.  Not that I don't like her....I do.  But that it probably feels like I don't.  Ugh.  That was really painful to type.  I get on her case about being late to class, about being out of dress code, about owning a pair of glasses.  But do I ever compliment her?  Do I ever ask how her day is?  Do I ever show an interest in this child other than to nag her?

Our opinions matter to these people.  I've made it a point to be more mindful about my actions toward the students.  Even though I felt terrible reading that message, I'm glad she wrote it.  I obviously needed that feedback and I would gather that she wasn't the only student feeling that way (sigh) but I can and will do better. 

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An Apology

Sometimes I forget that students care if I like them. I received an email from one of my students a few weeks ago, and the subject line ...